To Our Readers: We Want to Give You $50

Hi readers. This is Kyle Brackman, author of www.finishfirstniceguys.com. I had $50 lying around and was going to spend it on this pretty sweet new video game but instead I have an idea.

I have this website, you want $50. So I’m going to create a contest.

We need people to spread the word about Nice Guys Finish First. We want to make sure that nice guys everywhere understand how to get girls so that the jerks aren’t the ones stealing away the best women. That’s why we’re offering the following contest:

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We need you to write a blog post on YOUR WEBSITE about a time that you were able to impress a girl you really liked as a nice guy. Basically, we want you to share your stories with whoever reads your blog. Your post needs to meet the following conditions:

• It needs to be more than 350 words, not including the title.
• It needs to be your personal experience – unique to you, and written just for this contest.
• It needs to be written on your website and posted sometime after today’s date (3/18/2012)

Somewhere on the post, we need you to hyperlink one of the following phrases to our website (http://www.finishfirstniceguys.com). It doesn’t matter which phrase.  You can choose:

• How to get girls
• Dating tips
• Nice guys finish first
• Meet girls
• Impress women

Choose just one. That’s it!

This contest will be open to the first 100 blog post writers. Once we get to 100, we’ll take all of the people that applied and run them through a randomization algorithm. First place will get a $50 cash gift card mailed directly to them.

This contest is only open to the first 100 applicants. All posts must be written in English. Invite your friends and spread the word too. Need help on what to write? An example post would look like this:

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How I Got a Date With Mary Ann

Mary Ann was one of those girls that always seemed to be into some guy that wasn’t right for her. Maybe it was because she was too perfect. She was 5’5, light tan skin, brown hair. She had big eyes, enormous… personalities, and more. She was physically perfect. Even her toes were perfect.

But that wasn’t why I was into her. I knew her from back when she was a chubby little kid with no friends, and I was crazy about her ever since. I asked her out numerous times back then and she always said no, but she said so in a cute way that made me feel like I still had a chance. That was probably my fault.

I think that in some ways there were two problems. First, when I first liked her she didn’t understand why, and I think she said no because she didn’t think she was good enough for me. Then, when she became sexy, she would say no because she always had guys into her. She was never really interested in guys that were into her (maybe even for the same reason, who knows). She would only get interested in the guys that were not interested in her. Because of how sexy she was, almost all the guys that weren’t interested in her were jerks. So over time she started getting more and more attracted to jerks.

Like I said, a lot of this was my fault. I was too crazy about her. But at some point I realized that trying to get her to like me wasn’t going to work. So instead I decided we were not just going to be good friends, and I started treating her like a friend. I wasn’t as worried about getting her to like me. I’d hit on girls in front of her. I’d ignore her when she talked about boring subjects (not in a mean way, but dude – her cat is not interesting. I don’t know why I always acted like it was). I basically treated her like I would a buddy. I was still nice to her, but I’m a nice guy, so of course I was nice to her. But I stopped caring about if she liked me, and treated her that way, because I was tired of sucking up to her all the time.

Then the weirdest thing happened. After she broke up with her boyfriend, she got closer to me. I didn’t really understand it and I was already having some good success with girls, so I didn’t treat it like a big deal. Then after a while she’d start coming over to my house and making excuses not to leave. One night she fell asleep on my couch. When I went to bed, she walked in after me, put her hand down my pants, and the rest is history.

What I realized about how to get girls was that trying to impress women doesn’t work. What’s important is just trying to meet people and seeing what happens. In this case, this girl I was crazy about fell for me, but I’ll be honest – even if she didn’t, I would have been fine, because I learned to move on and see who else was out there.

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See? That’s an example post. Not too hard right? You can tell any story you want. You can talk about whatever you want. All you need to do is make sure it’s in your own words and that you hyperlink to us somewhere using one of the keywords above. It’s that simple.

If you’re interested, send an email to a partner of ours who will run this contest. The email address is ebookreviewblog (at) gmail.com. Let us know which keyword you’re using and what your blog address is, and send us the link to the blog post. This contest will run until we get 100 posts, so hurry up – tell your friends and let’s fill up this quota fast.

Why it’s Probably a Good Idea to Exercise

Ask any dating guru and they’ll tell you that it doesn’t matter how you look – as long as you know the tricks that attract women, you’ll have success. They’re right. While there is a small “looks” factor when it comes to first impressions, most of a girl’s attraction is based on your behaviors, personality, status, and stories – not the way you look.

But far too many guys take this a bit too far. They think that because it doesn’t matter how they look, they shouldn’t work out or exercise. They’re wrong. It’s always a good idea to join a gym and see about getting stronger and/or losing weight.

Why Exercise Is Important

Exercise isn’t important because you need to be this good looking, buff guy that attracts all the girls. Exercise is important for reasons that you may not even see. Some of these include:

• Confidence

Exercising builds confidence. While “how you look” may not matter, “how confident you look” does. Guys that ignore their own health, weight, and strength are often guys that don’t show they have confidence with their mannerisms. When you exercise and you start to like how you look more, that confidence is shown on your face any time you talk to women. Build confidence and exercise often go hand in hand.

• Caring About Yourself

Like confidence, a girl wants to see that you care about yourself. If you look like an overweight slob, you don’t give that impression. Going to the gym and exercising (or at least playing sports regularly with your buddies) will help the girl see that you’re someone that wants to be around for a long time – someone that can also provide for her for a long time.

• Mood, and Miscellaneous

Finally, exercise has an effect on your body in ways other than just building muscle and losing weight. Exercise releases hormones that improve your mood (something that’s important for attracting women). Exercise builds testosterone which will have you smell more attractive to women. Exercise ensures that your muscles are strong enough to prevent you from over-slouching or looking weak and scared (if you exercise your back muscles, you will stand straighter and appear more confident, for example). All of these are benefits of regular exercise.

Exercise to Help Win Girls

So when a dating guru tells you it doesn’t matter how you look, they’re 100% right. But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a benefit to exercise and being healthier. The more you exercise, the more confident you’ll be, the more you’ll look like you care about your health, and the better your mood will be – all of these will support your ability to get the girl.

3 Easy Tips for How to Get Girls to Like You

There are plenty of strategies you can implement to attract women, especially as a nice guy with a lot to offer. Despite what other people may tell you, none of these strategies involve being a jerk or making women feel worthless. But when it comes to how to get girls, there are still many things you need to do, many things you need to avoid, and a number of techniques that attract women that will help you become more attractive and desirable in their eyes. Here are several starting tips to help you begin.

Tips for Meeting Girls

• Take Up Space

The most important tip you can use is the idea that you need to take up space. That means that when you sit, you should sit with your arms on the sides of the chair or couch, and with your legs spread open. When you stand, stand in your place and keep your arms at your sides – make sure that you look like someone with presence, as this will display confidence. Men that know how to get girls attracted to them understand that displaying body language confidence is one of the most important things you can do.

• Tell Good Stories

When you have a conversation, make sure you’re discussing stories that show you as a person with experience and status. Talk about your band, or the time you spent on vacation in Thailand, or how you managed to win over an important client. Your stories should show that you’re a person that matters, and ensure women know that you’re a nice guy with an interesting life.

• Walk Away

If you want to know how to get girls, you also need to understand the importance of not being overly interested. You need to train yourself to walk away if you have nothing else to say or do. If the conversation is getting too boring or it’s clear you’re not making any headway, walk away. If you have her phone number and a date planned, walk away. The worst thing you can do is try to spend extra time hoping to impress her more.

Find Out How to Get Girls Interested

The above list represents just a small sample of the ways that you can gain a woman’s attraction, but they are definitely an important step. From there, you can refine your skills, improve your confidence, and do what it takes to build attraction in women.

Why to Get Any Girl, Sometimes You Need to Walk Away

Lots of guys want to learn how to get any girl. It’s a great goal – and it’s an achievable goal, especially if you know how to carry yourself in a way that will attract women. But one of the things that many nice guys don’t get is that one of the most important tools in your disposal towards getting any girl is also the willingness to walk away.

Walk Away?

To nice guys that want to have success with women, walking away seems like a failure. It’s not. Guys that are great with women understand that you can’t have 100% success every time you talk to anyone. Sometimes you need to be willing to walk away, because:

• She doesn’t seem interested.
• She’s not very interesting.
• Something has happened that makes it harder for you to move forward.

It doesn’t matter what the issue is. If something happens that makes it less likely you’ll be able to seal the deal, or that you even want to seal the deal, you need to walk away. There are many reasons that this helps you get any girl:

• Displays Confidence

Perhaps the most important reason you need to be willing to walk away is that it’s a sign of confidence. Men that have confidence know that they don’t “need” any girl. If something comes up that makes it harder for them to seal the deal, they walk away and try somewhere else. That shows confidence in a way that attracts women, and it’s not uncommon for walking away to build attraction in the girl, in a way that may help you either later that night or if you run into her again.

• Shows the Right Mindset

You need to have the right mindset in order to get any girl. That mindset involves the willingness to walk away if you’ve struggling. Confident guys don’t keep trying and trying and trying when things aren’t working out. They stop when they need to stop. That mindset is apparent in everything you do. If you focus too much effort on a single girl, she’ll pick up on it and you’ll look less attractive to her.

• Focusing On Yourself

Finally, you need to teach yourself that you don’t need any woman just because she’s pretty or tells a good story. If something is going wrong in the conversation, you need to care enough about yourself to walk away. It’s one of the most important lessons you can learn when it comes to getting any girl – if you don’t believe in yourself, you’re going to fail, and believing in yourself means that you’re willing to walk away and know that some other girl is out there somewhere.

Tips to Get Any Girl

It’s funny that “giving up” is an important part of succeeding, but it’s true. Unless you’re willing to walk away when you need to, you’ll never be able to get any girl like the pick-up artists do. You’ll find that once you’re able to get yourself to walk away, you’ll not only have more success with other women – you’ll find that some of these women even come follow you to hit on you more, attracted by your bravery and confidence. Don’t focus too hard on any one girl. If you’re not succeeding already, walk away.

Playing Hard to Get – Not Just For Women

One of the most difficult tricks for nice guys to manage is the idea that they need to act as though the women are not important to them. This is usually misinterpreted to mean that you don’t need to treat the women that well.

This is simply not the case. Treating women poorly is a method that some guys use, and it occasionally works, but it usually only works with women that are already emotionally damaged. Most modern, mature women don’t want to be treated poorly at all. But what they also don’t want is a guy that needs them. When you buy a girl gifts, compliment her every moment, and give her the entirety of your attention, you are essentially announcing to the girl:

“I want you so bad it hurts.”

Women don’t want to feel like they’re the ones in control of who they date. Or let’s put it another way: You know how in 80′s movies, the guy always asks the girl out. You know how the girl giggles and gets extremely happy because she just got asked out by the guy? She’s not giggling because that guy’s always been after her and she finally said yes. She’s giggling because she saw the guy as someone that could get any girl he wanted, but he chose to ask her out. She’s giggling because she’s the lucky one, not him.

All women want to feel like they’re the lucky ones to be with the guy, not the guy is lucky to be with them. That’s why, as a man, you need to play hard to get. You need to act like you don’t need her. And to be fair, you don’t. You may occasionally feel like you do because she’s so pretty or nice or whatever, but there are millions of pretty and nice girls in the world. You still need to be a nice guy, but you need to be a nice guy that acts and looks like he has no intention of going out with her because she hasn’t earned it.

That is one of the most important methods of attracting women. Act like you need them too much and you’ve already lost.

Creating Instant Rapport to Make Her Feel Comfortable

One of the toughest things about talking to a woman for the first time is getting her to drop her guard. I’m not even talking about sex; just conversation – getting a woman to relax enough to sit and talk to you and not look for a reason to get pissed off and walk away.

As a guy, it’s your job to create that environment and make her feel comfortable enough to talk to you in a way that she wouldn’t have dreamed of otherwise. And you have to do it without her realizing what’s happening.

How it Works

Basically, when you meet a woman for the first time, you need to do three things:

1. Create an Instant Connection
2. Provide Value in Your Conversation
3. Be Confident and Stop Trying to Please

When you walk up to her, don’t whip out some corny line or ask her to sit with you. Act like you already know her and that you’re picking up where you left off years ago. More than that, be confident and don’t worry about what she thinks. Don’t try to impress her. Don’t debase yourself to get her attention.

Just talk, and if she doesn’t like what you have to say, let her move on. Better yet, move on yourself. By being the one to decide when the conversation ends, you retain control and make her wonder why you left.

Value is big though. You can’t just show up and be a prick and then expect her to go home with you. You need to provide value in what you say and how you listen. So, be interested in what she has to say when it is interesting, and relax with your body language to show her that you’re enjoying yourself and don’t expect anything to happen.

Giving Away Information

Information has value. To make sure she knows it has value, make her work for it. Instead of practically begging her to tell you about herself, make her do the same. When she asks a question about you, make her go first. When she wants to know your intentions, make her give up a small secret.

You can even let a small secret drop about yourself – nothing big or too mindblowing of course, you just met her. But, a secret of any size told casually but with clear intention will add value to the conversation and make her more comfortable.

Comfort is a tough one. Ninety nine percent of what you do when meeting women is about comfort levels. Not surprisingly, though, the more comfortable you can be in yourself, the better off you’ll be in making her feel comfortable around you.

The Scared Dork Doesn’t Get the Girl

A lot of movies lately have been promoting the idea that an awkward, overly nice, scared guy can get one of the hottest girls on the planet. The Sorcerer’s Apprentice, She’s Out of My League, and other movies starring Jay Baruchel seem to be advocating this idea that if you do nothing but confess your unwavering devotion to a girl, she’s going to eventually melt in your arms.

It’s not true.

The problem isn’t that these guys are nice or that they’re not slick. Anyone can win over a hot girl if they know what to do and how to do it. Dating hot girls isn’t about being some handsome rich guy, and attractive women do fall for even the fattest of nerds.

The problem is that the method these movies are promotion (do nothing but tell the girl how perfect she is) is a method that can be done by literally every guy, every day.

How Are You Different?

Think about it. When you do nothing but praise this girl and talk about how perfect she is, you’re doing something that quite literally every other guy can do. If those methods worked, she’d already be with a dorky awkward guy already, because there is no way she’s never met a guy like that. There are lots of guys like that, and she probably meets them every day.

You need to have some semblance of confidence. To win love from a pretty girl, you need to at least seem like a guy that is different. Confessing your attraction to her every five seconds isn’t different. It’s exactly what all guys do when they don’t know how to win over a girl.

Dating hot girls is about learning what it takes to impress women. You can still be a nice guy, but you need to be a nice guy that doesn’t seem exactly like every other nice guy on the planet. You need to make yourself seem different, and you need to do things that she’ll believe only you can do. That’s what will earn her attraction and that’s what will help you get the girl as a nice guy.

Why I Wrote This Book

Dating is tough guys. I hated it for a long time. That’s probably because I sucked at it, which is not surprising if you consider the kind of stupid stuff I was doing.

One liners?

Buying them drinks and waiting for them to come to me?

Being a complete jackass because I saw it on TV?

All kinds of fail.

So, a couple years ago I decided to stop trying to be a prick and a stereotype straight out of Jersey Shore and actually learn what women respond to in a guy.

Yeah, this stuff works in a bar, but it also works at a grocery store or at the gym, or in a classroom – you know, places where the women are sober.

Finish First Nice Guys is the culmination of a crap load of reading, researching, and some very painful practice. This is the guide that men have wanted ever since they heard that stupid cliché, “nice guys finish last”.

It’s not true and women who tell you it’s not true aren’t lying. Women honestly want to meet a nice guy. They want to hook up with someone who makes them laugh and actually cares about their cat.

The problem is that when you think you’re being a nice guy, half the time you’re graveling for attention. You’re begging her to like you and no one respects that.

Doesn’t matter if you’re talking to an attractive woman at a concert or a hiring manager for a company you want to work at. If you beg to be accepted, you’re giving away every last ounce of power you have. Sure, sometimes it works, but I guarantee she won’t respect you.

Finding Respect and Being Nice

I’m not some pickup artist who has slept with 10,000 women. If you want that kind of advice, go somewhere else. I’m a normal guy like you and I’ve spent a lot of time talking to women, going on dates, and learning what it takes to be a nice guy without turning into a pathetic whiner.

We’re talking about fundamentals here – things like confidence and attitude and body language. When you show up in a room and people turn to look at you, it won’t be to avoid the glare of the lights or because of a Pavlovian response to an opening door. It will be because you look like someone they want to know.

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Don’t Buy Things to Get Her Attention

Alright guys – here’s something you should have been told a LONG time ago that would have saved you a boatload of money. When you’re trying to impress a girl, don’t open your wallet and buy them things. Sure, it works sometimes. A big meal or a nice necklace may get you laid, but it sure as heck won’t get you into a relationship, and most of the time it won’t even provide the former.

Don’t women like nice stuff? Heck yeah they do. Just like you. If some woman showed up and started buying you tickets to baseball games and new sneakers, you’d probably cling to her like a fly to a glue strip, but it doesn’t mean you want to marry her…

Women don’t respect guys who buy them things. Sometimes, you might impress her anyways. Other times, she’ll be honest and break it off before you go broke. But, a lot of the time, neither one of you realizes that it’s a sham, and a really expensive one at that.

You’re Giving Up Too Early

Basically, when you buy things instead of actually trying to impress a girl, you give up right out of the gate. Think about it this way. ANYONE with a job can go out and buy stuff for a girl they just met. Jewellery, lobster dinners, and clothes are easy. What’s hard is actually getting to know someone and make them laugh and generate interest in yourself.

On top of all that, you’re pretty much admitting that you’re not good enough for her; that you need to buy your way in. And no woman wants to be told, through gifts or otherwise, that the guy she is dating is not good enough for her, that he needs to buy her affections. She may stick around for now and she may not even realize what’s happening, but if the spigot ever stops or if she sits down to think about your relationship, it will be over pretty quickly.

Don’t Go Broke – Get Smart

Women don’t want a guy to buy them things. They won’t complain if you do, but it doesn’t have any impact on how attractive you are to them. They want a guy who is confident in himself, with ambition and a strong personality. They want a guy who can tell a joke and take a joke and generally doesn’t care what other people think about him. Spending money relentlessly to show off your income or buy her affection doesn’t do these things, and if it works even a little, you’re probably attracting the wrong women.